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He Apologized. He Made It Right. The Guilt Still Ran Three Years Later.
Persistent guilt is not a proportional response to what happened. It is a pattern that was installed in a context where guilt served a function. When the original function no longer applies, the pattern does not retire. Making amends addresses the situation but not the pattern. The pattern generates guilt in new situations until it is addressed at the level where it runs.
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The things to take from this
001Guilt that persists after amends is a pattern, not a judgment
When you have apologized, made things right, and done what the situation required, and the guilt continues, you are no longer dealing with accountability. You are dealing with a pattern that runs independently of the original event. The pattern was installed in a context where feeling guilty served a purpose. That context has passed. The pattern has not.
002The pattern finds new material to run on
Persistent guilt does not stay attached to the original event. It scans for material that resembles the context in which it was installed and attaches to that. A person who carries a guilt pattern will find it activating in situations that have no genuine relationship to what originally produced it. This is the mechanism that makes guilt feel free-floating and disproportionate.
003External stability can mask internal instability
Neel describes putting up a brave front while not being okay internally. The same architecture operates in guilt. The person shows accountability, shows they have moved on, shows they are functioning. Internally, the pattern runs on its own schedule. The brave front is not dishonest. It is the gap between what is presented and what actually runs.
004State choice is the capability that ends the pattern
Addressing guilt at the cognitive level, through self-forgiveness exercises, through reframing, through rationalizing that what you did was understandable, works at the surface. The pattern runs below that surface. When the state changes at the level the pattern operates, the guilt stops generating in situations where it has no valid function. That is the difference between managing guilt and ending the pattern.
Part 01
He Made It Right. The Guilt Did Not Stop.
Vikram was a senior manager at a logistics firm in Bangalore. In 2019, under pressure from a quarterly deadline, he had pushed a subordinate in a way that later cost that person a promotion. Vikram found out six months after the fact.
He went to the person directly, acknowledged what he had done, and worked behind the scenes to repair the professional damage. By 2020, the subordinate had been promoted and the relationship between the two of them was functional and warm.
In 2022, Vikram was still carrying it. Not as a daily preoccupation, but as a background weight that activated whenever a performance conversation was coming, or whenever a junior member of his team seemed stressed after an interaction with him. He had done everything the situation required.
He had made it right. The guilt continued on its own, running through situations that had no connection to the original event, attaching itself to new contexts where all it found was a faint resemblance to the original structure.
This is what persistent guilt actually looks like. It is not guilt about a specific unresolved situation. It is a pattern that was installed at a time when guilt served a function, and that has continued running after the original function became irrelevant.
Vikram's guilt was, at origin, a genuine signal. It told him he had overstepped. He received the signal, acted on it, and resolved the situation.
The signal should have stopped. It did not stop, because the guilt was no longer operating as a signal. It had become a pattern.
Neel, whose story appears in the video above, describes something structurally similar. For years, his emotional state was dependent on what was happening around him. The slightest external trigger would move the ground under him.
He would put up a brave front while internally something different ran. The front was not deceptive. It was real in one layer.
The internal pattern ran in a different layer, and the two did not resolve simply because Neel understood that something was off. Understanding the pattern did not end the pattern.
Part 02
Why Conventional Approaches to Guilt Do Not Change the Pattern
The standard approaches to dealing with guilt work through cognitive reprocessing. You identify what you did. You acknowledge the impact.
You make amends where possible. You practice self-compassion. You reframe the event as a learning experience.
You remind yourself that you acted from the best information available at the time. These are coherent and often genuinely useful steps. They address the cognitive layer of the guilt experience. They do not address the pattern layer.
Vikram had done all of them. His cognitive understanding of the situation was clear and accurate. He knew the guilt was disproportionate to what remained unresolved.
He could articulate precisely why it was no longer warranted. The articulation did not stop the guilt from activating in performance conversations, because the guilt pattern does not consult the cognitive understanding when it activates. The pattern runs on a faster and older channel than conscious reasoning.
This is the architecture that makes persistent guilt resistant to the approaches primary commonly recommended. The approaches are not wrong. They address a real dimension of the experience.
The problem is that the pattern itself, the automatic firing of the guilt response in situations that bear a structural resemblance to the original context, operates below the level that cognitive reprocessing reaches. A person who has reframed an event thoroughly at the cognitive level and still feels the guilt activating automatically is experiencing the gap between the cognitive layer and the pattern layer.
Neel describes this gap in the video without naming it that way. He was going about his life normally, functioning, presenting as fine, while internally he was not okay. That gap, between what was presented and what ran inside, is precisely the gap between cognitive understanding and installed pattern.
Understanding does not close the gap. What closes the gap is work at the level where the pattern runs.
The guilt pattern was installed in a specific context where it served a specific function: to signal that a boundary had been crossed, to maintain social accountability, to prevent a repeat of the behavior. In Vikram's case, that context resolved. In many cases of persistent guilt, the context resolves or becomes irrelevant.
The pattern was never given a signal to retire. So it continues finding material in new situations that structurally resemble the original one. A new performance conversation activates the same pattern as the 2019 situation.
A moment of conflict with a peer activates the same pattern. The pattern is not responding to those situations. It is responding to a structure it recognizes from a context that no longer exists.
The pattern, as a circuit. One trigger, and it runs the full loop on its own. A pattern runs from one source. That is why it returns no matter how much effort goes in at the surface.
Part 03
What A&H Identifies That Self-Forgiveness Exercises Miss
The distinction
The A&H framework, developed through Antano Solar John's work across more than 2 million installations in 50 industries and 13 countries, identifies a consistent mechanism in persistent emotional patterns. The pattern was installed in a context where it served a function. When the function is no longer needed, the pattern does not automatically uninstall. It stays until something addresses it at the level it runs.
Guilt is a functional pattern. In its original form, it is a signal that something important has been violated. That signal is necessary.
A person without access to genuine guilt cannot maintain accountability, cannot sustain relationships, cannot function with integrity across complex situations. The problem is not guilt. The problem is the pattern that keeps generating the guilt signal in situations where there is nothing left to signal.
Vikram's guilt, by 2022, was generating the guilt signal in performance conversations with junior colleagues who had done nothing wrong and in situations that bore only a structural resemblance to the 2019 event. The pattern was not wrong to exist. It was wrong to still be running.
The pattern had outlasted its function, but it had no internal mechanism for recognizing that. Patterns installed at the level below conscious awareness do not self-audit. They run on whatever material resembles the original context that triggered their installation.
Neel's evolution described in the video shows what it looks like when the pattern changes at that level. His external triggers stopped having the same force over his internal state. This was not the result of consciously deciding to be less reactive.
It was not the result of reframing the triggers as less threatening. His state became his own in a way it had not been before, and the patterns that had previously run on external inputs no longer had the same purchase. The same structural shift applies to guilt.
When the pattern is addressed at the level it runs, the guilt stops generating in situations that do not genuinely call for it. The signal remains available. The automatic pattern does not continue firing without cause.
Part 04
What Changes When the Guilt Pattern Resolves
When Neel describes what changed after his work with the A&H ecosystem, he does not describe a moment of deciding to feel better. He describes noticing that external events no longer had the same hold on him. The acidity that had been a constant physical companion disappeared.
He slept differently. The brave front became unnecessary because the internal state and the presented state aligned. Not because he had constructed a better performance of being fine, but because the internal experience had changed.
This is what resolving a guilt pattern produces. Not the removal of genuine accountability, which is a capability worth keeping. Not the removal of the capacity to feel appropriate guilt in situations that warrant it.
What resolves is the automatic firing of the guilt pattern in contexts that do not warrant it, in the performance conversation with someone who has done nothing wrong, in the small conflict with a colleague that has no connection to the 2019 event.
Vikram found that the performance conversations changed first. The weight that had previously arrived automatically when one of those conversations was approaching simply did not arrive. Not because he had reminded himself that the 2019 situation was resolved.
The reminder had been available for three years and had not changed the experience. The change was that the pattern that had been generating the weight in those situations was no longer running in the same way.
What follows from that change is the release of a sustained internal cost. Persistent guilt consumes a portion of the internal state regardless of the specific situations it attaches to. Vikram had been managing that cost for three years without fully accounting for it. When the pattern resolved, he noticed the difference in what he had available in situations that had previously carried the weight. The conversations that had been draining became straightforward. The junior team members he had been overly careful around got a different quality of engagement. The resources that had been allocated to carrying the pattern became available for the work at hand. Watch: Overcoming Emotional Guilt to see what this shift looks like.
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Installed PatternA response that was established in a specific context and continues running automatically in situations that structurally resemble that context. Persistent guilt is an installed pattern that was functional at the time of installation and continues to fire after the original function is no longer needed.
State ChoiceThe developed capability to determine one's internal emotional state independently of external circumstances. In Neel's account, this capability did not exist before his work with the A&H ecosystem and was present consistently after. State choice is not positive thinking. It is an installed capability.
External-Trigger DependenceA pattern in which the internal emotional state shifts in response to what happens externally. Neel's description of his internal state being movable by the slightest external trigger is a precise description of external-trigger dependence. Persistent guilt operates on a similar mechanism, with the guilt pattern triggered by situations that resemble the original context.
Pattern LayerThe level of functioning below conscious reasoning where automatic responses run. Cognitive understanding operates at a different level from the pattern layer. This is why a person can understand that persistent guilt is no longer warranted and still experience it activating automatically.
CascadeThe downstream effects that follow a single change at the pattern level. Neel describes not just the absence of the original problem but the opening of new possibilities in relationships, health, and what became visible as achievable. A pattern-level change produces cascades the person does not engineer specifically.
Questions people ask
How do I deal with guilt that will not go away?
Guilt that persists after you have acknowledged what happened and done what the situation required is no longer operating as a signal about that situation. It has become a pattern running on its own. The standard approaches, self-forgiveness, reframing, self-compassion, address the cognitive layer of the experience. They do not change the pattern at the level it runs. Addressing the pattern at that level requires work below the cognitive, at the level where the automatic response was installed.
Why do I still feel guilty even after apologizing and making it right?
Because the apology and the amends address the situation that originally triggered the guilt. They do not address the pattern that continues to generate the guilt response. The pattern was installed in a context where guilt served a function. When the function no longer applies, the pattern looks for new material that structurally resembles the original context. New situations activate the old pattern. Making it right changes the external facts. It does not change the internal pattern.
Is persistent guilt a sign of a deeper problem?
Persistent guilt is a sign that a pattern is running beyond the context that originally installed it. This is not unusual. Patterns do not self-retire when the original function becomes obsolete. They continue running on whatever material resembles the original context. The question to ask about persistent guilt is not whether something is wrong with you but what context originally installed the pattern and what function it was serving. Answering that question is the beginning of addressing it at the level where it runs.
How do I forgive myself and stop feeling guilty?
Self-forgiveness as a conscious practice works at the cognitive level. It is a real and valuable step. It addresses your relationship to the memory of what happened. What it does not change is the automatic pattern that generates guilt in situations that resemble the original context but have no genuine connection to it. The gap between understanding you have forgiven yourself and still experiencing the guilt activation is the gap between cognitive processing and pattern-level change. Closing that gap requires addressing the pattern at the level it operates.
Can guilt become a habit?
Yes. Guilt that was initially a genuine signal can become an automatic pattern that runs on situational cues without the signal being warranted. The cues that activate it are structural resemblances to the original context, not genuine violations that require accountability. A person who has carried a guilt pattern for years will find it activating in situations that have nothing to do with the original event. This is not a character flaw. It is how patterns work when they are not addressed at the level they run.
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It started with fascination. Something like this existed and the speed at which it could give results was beyond my imagination. I think it's like they've given me a lifetime of joy. It's going forward, right? How many of our years I live, how many of our years we are together. Anthony, Harini and the whole ecosystem. So it started I think in 2014 when my aunt actually convinced me to just not think and give seven days of my life to her and I said sure and those seven days were the first time I met ANH. It started with fascination. Like I was always curious with something new and something like this existed and the speed at which it could give results was beyond my imagination. One of the major ones would be internal happiness. Like not depending externally for triggers. Earlier anything external that could affect me, could affect my state, they don't affect me too much and that has led to so many different things in life. Stability I would say so in terms of states. Trap, would you like to add to what he just said when it comes to external things not affecting you anymore? Yeah, of course. Like first Neil, you know with the slightest trigger, his days, his nights, his weeks would just, it's like moving the ground under him, right? That much you need to poke and you know you can shake his entire world and it would affect him how, right? He would think it's not affecting him and he's going about doing his life normally but you know internally this guy is not okay, he's not happy but he would put up a front saying you know I'm brave, I can deal with it. He would not agree with the fact that you know something's off. He would always put a very brave front which is good sometimes for everybody else to have faith in you but I don't think it was doing good to him as a person. He used to have insane amount of acidity and stomach issues and all that has just disappeared. Yeah, no? I wasn't in my awareness until he was. Yeah, I think from the time he is, this aspect of his life has changed. All that has just never come out. No matter what he's eaten, what time he's eaten, it does not affect him. Better, better health. My health is up and down, up and down so I don't feel, I feel like I'm aging so I really want my body, energy levels, health to get sorted out. State choice is the most important part of it and secondly in terms of what are the possibilities out there that are unknown to you. I think every time I meet ANH in formal or informal setups, there are some new doors which open up with opening up a whole array of possibilities out there. So a lot of times things happen when in ANH ecosystem, changes happen but you realise much later on. From a person who had zero flow, like I didn't know people like that existed but clearly he did. From a person who had zero flow, room for ambiguity, room for spontaneity, he has come a long way. He goes with things now, it's okay not knowing things, it's okay discovering things on the way. Like that is like a really big transformation, right? Like for somebody who was so structured and so, you know like in my interview I said very black, very white, very code, very driven, very this, very structured to have this much fluidity, this much flow, it's like I didn't even know it was possible. Like I didn't know, like that surprises me. Right and has he still retained the core nature that has made him him? He has both, he has both which is amazing right? Because he needs that and he needs this. So he is able to switch when he needs what? And I don't even know if he knows consciously if he is doing that but he is doing that. What do you have to say about that? I got a very beautiful metaphor right now. It's like 8-10 years back, it's like a computer screen with binaries, you know 1010 and then the next frame is basically an empty canvas and colours all together. I would say that is actually true and I am able to retain the binary part as well in situations that demand those things and have the option to be honest with you to play with colours as well. I came with a lot of skepticism, I didn't believe in it and Ketki sent me and signed me up in this go without experience, I mean just experience what it is. First up made me realise there is something else other than the science that I am being taught of that can really help shape an individual. What does that mean to both of you? That you have evolved to these capabilities that is helping you to have this personality and that personality. I would say better relationships because I was black and white and she was all colours but black and white. So by adding a few colours in my palette, I think we are bonding in a much better way. I think now we have got the whole range of colours. Black and white was also necessary to finish my spectrum of colours. So I think we have filled our rainbow so complete now. Beautiful, beautiful. What else from Neil? I think in life Neil has always prioritised everybody else over him. Like every time the priority has been external at whatever cost it is at internal which is remarkable. People love him and just because he can do that which very few people can do that I understand. But at the cost of a lot of losing out a lot for himself and for people who are very close to him. I think over these last few years he has been able to juggle between both without compromising on anything. So he is still out there, there for people, you know ready with his arms and ready to give and help and be there. And he is a wonderful person. He has friends like nobody. He makes friendships, he has that connection and it's not even superficial right. Like there he knows what time compression is. That is a wonderful skill to have but at the same time still taking care of his needs, his priorities and his family's priority. I think that has been a very big game changer. It was a journey to build layered relationships with all the people in the ecosystem. And by layered relationships I mean the old Neil, there were certain conversations he would have, certain conversations he wouldn't be able to have. I think this Neil is able to convey the right message without putting the relationship at risk and at the same time enhancing the relation by having these conversations. So that has really helped. I was always the kind of person who used to wait for a particular circumstance or a situation before I could bring up a conversation with certain people. Because I used to always think that you need to be in the right space of mind, everything, all the parameters need to be okay to have that conversation. But post CTD in conjunction with that I am able to create that environment and then have the conversation rather than waiting for the right parameters. I think the kind of father he is. We are lucky that we became parents while we were doing this ANH journey. It wasn't like we had already raised kids to a certain age and then joined and then. Now both of us do have very different parenting styles but he has become so open to listening to the way. I don't have a plan but you know what I say and then I explain. I think just because both of us are in the ecosystem we understand each other very well with how we want to raise our kids. It is clear that what is okay, what is not okay, what we should, what we should, should, should avoid like the choice of words like. I think all of that makes a very big difference. If somebody says something that is so off, both of us just look at each other and smile because both of us have caught it at the right moment like. Okay, that is something we don't want to do for our kids or at least this is something we don't want to take back home. I would say pre-parenting it's very important for two people to be on the same page. And I think with Prapti and me the best part was below all the clutter and by clutter I mean what you say, what you feel, what you do, etc. There lies a value system which is actually very difficult to change. It definitely changes over a period of time but it's hard. I could see Prapti's value system in the process of the ANH journey and know our value systems match. So once that confidence was there everything else seemed so easy that they are just momentarily things. And with that value system in place I mean I knew for a fact that we'll be on a similar page when it comes to raising kids. The goal is going to be the same maybe the medium to achieve it could be different from time to time. Actually while I was talking to Anthonu about some little fixing we needed in our relation at that point of time. And Anthonu brought it to my attention. He's like Neel plays a lot of chess right? I said a lot. Right? A lot. And he's like I think he looks at life like a chess board. Where he's constantly thinking 10 steps ahead. And I'm like that is right. Because that is what Neel tells me you know that Prapti you just said it but you know I'm thinking 10 steps ahead like you said this now what after a few years how that will come back. You know that's how he would see life. And I'm like who thinks this much right? You know like this much means. And when Anthonu brought that to my attention I'm like Anthonu that's exactly how he's living his life. And he's like yeah and then it gave me some you know it kind of made me realize how he's seeing the world. And then Anthonu did whatever he had to do to make him who he's become now. My god I'll tell you the reason why my god. Anthonu had given me an assignment in the last big about Bobby Fisher and unfortunately he passed away because he was using the principles of chess in real life. And he couldn't cope with the two ecosystems. I think maybe it wasn't a test for me for my installation but the installation on me itself for this whole journey. That's what I'm trying to realize right now. Now that you have. I know. Now that you've crossed over now you know what has happened. So Neel now when you look back at that Neel versus the Neel who you are today. What do you see the difference in these two Neels in terms of their emotions in terms of their health. Like any action that he would take he wouldn't want to be in the bad books of anybody. And neither be perceived as a person who is you know saying things which I don't like or something on those lines. Now the Neel later on has been able to structure conversations in a way which conveys the message without getting the feeling of bad or even if he's able to elicit the feeling of bad in a person being able to pull them out of it. So I think that's been a major shift between the two things I would say at a emotional level externally internally the Neel before as Prapti rightly said. Ten steps ahead like if I say this today is okay but then this happened and this happens and that would just consume me for every question there are 100 answers possible and you would worry about all 100 scenarios. So your predictive intelligence is zero and your worry is about which hundred if this point zero when it happened then what will be the possible combination that used to just heat up my brain. So that was the previous Neel. Now with predictive and learning predictive intelligence what I'm able to do is I'm able to establish a better guess at what the outcome would be and at the same time not worrying about what the outcomes are going to be like irrespective if I'm right or wrong. I could have done not better than this basically given the resources I have given the skills that I have this is the best I could do today and I have a good night's sleep. Right. What else Prapti? I think Neel as a person initially like previous Neel would really underplay who he was and I think somewhere he was unable to figure out what value he's adding in a lot of situations even though he was he didn't I think know his the value he was bringing to the table which is not the case anymore. Like who is he right now? He is still who he is. He's not out there in people's face and I know it all kind of a person but he understands his value. He knows what he's worth and others know what he's worth also. Very very very beautiful. Now Neel. Prapti has. I'm gloating. So, now if you have to reflect on Prapti's journey. Yeah. From her first step to now. What are some things that you have noticed about her evolution that you feel really happy as a husband. I would say she's mastered state choices in a lot of aspects in relationships. She is the heart of our family. She has not only helped me evolve but she also makes sure everybody in the family is at a right space. Like without words she is able to calibrate and understand of what is required when is required. I want to be happier in my relationships. I want to feel content. I want to be a little more patient. I don't want to lose my temper very fast. It's all these things I do right now. So I think our house itself was very black and white. Not only me. And she adds this beautiful aura of celebration with her and that constantly is growing. So that actually I feel has evolved all of us and made us happier individuals in her presence. That is one major thing I would say so. And Prapti and my marriage was arranged marriage. So I would say there was an image in her head. What was the name of the movie? Hum Saath Saath Hai. That I have family celebrating everything. And that image evolved once she started to know the characters. Once she started to know the people. And her priorities evolved in life and the way she approached things, the way she looked at things. So I am very proud of everything. Thanks. Yes. So I come from a joint family. I got married into a joint family with a lot of people. And I feel being the wife, being the daughter-in-law, if I am at my best, only good things are going to happen around me. And I can, a lot of things would depend on my state. So I would just want to be, actually do what I do. Do it with a lot of love. So that everything around me also falls into place. And now when I am coming for this up and this, you know, the next course, I am not actually thinking about a limitation I want to fix. Instead it's what can I do better in my life. Prapti has seen my father-in-law work on multiple businesses starting from scratch. She has seen the whole evolution from zero to a successful career. So she knows the values that and the effort it requires for a family starting from zero, going to a certain level. And how people change, surroundings change, personality changes with and without success. She brought that to the table when we got married. Now, a lot of those things made her have a certain set of belief system. Those belief systems were true, were acting as a SOS for her. However, she didn't know how to channel it when it comes to implementing the next steps or course of action. So I would say, knowledge was definitely there, the rights and the don'ts. However, how to implement it in our current life in the most resourceful states is what the evolution has been in the journey. And that has impacted so many different aspects of our lives in terms of my relationship with my father. She brings a lot of experience and now she's able to channel that experience in the right way, which is customized to each and every individual based on their journey in their life. Beautiful. That's amazing. That's amazing. But what do you feel about this, Vravati? What does this mean to you, for you to be able to do this for the family, for your family? I think I'm very lucky that I'm in this position and I'm very... I only hope that I get better at it and grow and evolve and evolve everyone's life for the better around me. Let's say Neel and Vravati together hadn't met Antony when Harini. What would have been the trajectory of Neel and Vravati? It would have been completely different trajectories and things would have been different. Yeah, we would have been on different trades. Maybe I would be doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. They are one of the nicest people I've actually known. I don't know what my life would be without them. I'm so grateful for everything that they do with the pure heart that they have. I wish nothing but the best for them in their lives as well. And they say that God exists in all of us. I see glimpses of that. I'm so grateful for them, like for every single thing. I think if it wasn't for them, we wouldn't be where we are today. I think if it wasn't for them, we wouldn't be where we are today. We're not even close to where we are. I've always had this tendency before, which I forgot to mention in my interview. If it doesn't work, I'll just quit and go. Like, that's it. I tried, didn't happen. Jump to something new. I think after coming to ANH, after meeting Antono and Harini, I understood what is stability, what it is to be in one place. It gives you so much strength when you take what's coming, you know, with that stride, with that, you know, with a broad chest, you're like, come on, I'm going to, whatever comes my way, I'm equipped. You know, I'm not going to run away from this. I think that is something I never thought I will. It wasn't even in my map. It wasn't even something I thought was limiting me. I've run away from so many situations in my past because there's a little something about it was inconvenient. And I think they've taught me how to live my life with ease, with love, with fullness, with joy, while celebrating, no matter what comes, right? It's not just the good times where you can do all this. There are also going to be challenging times, but you can still lead your life with all of that. I think that has been like the biggest learning they've taught me through. You know, I've seen them in real life, spoken to them. I've heard them. I've heard them on my podcast. I've heard them on YouTube. I've heard about them from so many people even before I started. But to give somebody this, like what price will somebody put to this, right? When you're teaching them how to live their life. So I can't, I can't tell. I don't know how to tell how grateful I am to Anthony and the whole ecosystem where there are nights and days when they've worked on some limitation I have, something that had to be fixed without looking at the clock, without looking at the fact that if they've eaten, not eaten, do they have a crying child at home who is not well or, you know, are they going to get a ride back home? Nothing. Just the focus being how do we help her become better? How do we bring this to her? Just with the intent to give. Like, where do you see that? Like, where does... I only wish the world, you know, the Harni's dream of having so many EIS. EIS, no? So many EIS. Like, I really pray that it happens. It's already time compressed, and there was a word like even more powerful than that. Like, the world will be so beautiful to live in if everybody thought like this, if everybody lived their life in this to give, to help, to evolve, to grow, but also grow while you're helping others. It's all just so beautifully interlinked. Like, what more? How many years have Anu and Harni helped you time compress Neil and Praveen? Time compress would presuppose that if they were not there, how many years it would take us to reach here. I would say if they were not there in our life, we would have never reached here. So, there is no time compression. We would be on such a different trajectory that we may never be happier. Like, yes, for moments here, there, etc. But we would have not reached this place, I would say, without them in all aspects of my life. I think it's like they've given me a lifetime of joy post the time I've met them. Like, it's going forward, right? How many of our years I live, how many of our years we are together, our kids and their lives and then their lives and then their lives and then... I'm just really praying and hoping that everything that we are getting from Anu and Harni, like, is in our life and then it trickles down to our kids' life and their kids' life and their kids' life and then it just flows, right? So, I really don't know how many years. I think way, way, way, way too many years. But I would love to know that it's flowing everywhere. Generations and generations. Generations. Yeah. Our daughter actually knows Anu very well. Like, since she was one year old, Prapti has been playing... Actually, since we conceived her. Yeah, actually. True, very true. She's been listening to podcast, she's been listening to Solar Voice podcast, I keep saying. But she's been listening to Solar Voice. She has been in awe of Anu. She wants to, I give her options, right? We give her options every night. Do you want us to tell you a story? Do you want us to read a story to you? Or do you want to listen to Anu and Harni? So, she gets all those three options and she very smartly makes us read stories to her. But she wants to sleep listening to Anu and Harni. Like, she wants to listen to them. I was just telling somebody in the system this time that as soon as Anu opens the floodgates for the kids to enter, I know where my kids are coming and it gives me so much peace of mind, knowing that I know there's this ecosystem. If there's something they need, they have a go-to place. And however hard it is for us to leave our kids to, you know, to leave our kids, say come to Chennai or do... Even though it's for us, it's for our evolution, but it's very difficult for us to leave our kids, leave them and then come and immerse in this. But every time we ask ourselves, who are we doing this for? And what is the bigger picture? And, okay, what we bring back after those seven days is way, way, way... It's so large that these seven days don't really equate to anything. So, yeah, my message to Antanu and Harini is like, I have a three-year-old and I have a nine-month-old, so tell me when they can come and be a part of everything that you do. I think it will change the way they live their life, the teenagers. I think everything will just become so smooth and they will know better than everybody else. Thank you.
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